Can Tarot Help You Heal After a Breakup?

Breaking up is never easy. Whether your relationship ended on good terms or was something you never expected (ouch!), saying goodbye to someone you loved and cared for so much can leave you feeling empty and broken inside. You feel totally lost and unsure of what the future will be like. During this highly emotional time, a lot of lost souls turn to self-practices to somehow get over a heartbreak. And for many, tarot cards become the ‘life jacket’ that helps them embark on a journey of healing. Let’s explore how tarot can assist in mending your broken heart.

Cards Provide You with Emotional Validation

We all know what the hardest part of a breakup is. It’s dealing with a bag of emotions like anger, sadness, confusion, and sometimes even guilt that make us go mad. The best part about the love tarot card reading séance is that nobody ever judges you even experts! Nobody judges your feelings or your love story scenario. The deck only reflects them. If you happen to pull cards like Five of Cups, Three of Swords, or Nine of Swords, it can actually validate that yes, you are hurt now, but there’s nothing wrong with feeling that way after a breakup. The whole point here is that even seeing those emotions mirrored back can serve as some sort of comfort. Give it a try.

You Are Encouraged to Self-Reflect

If you are ready to dig deeper, tarot cards are the best tool. For instance, cards like The Hanged Man and Hermit let some dose of introspection in, as if encouraging you to ask questions like, “What did I learn from my 4-year relationship with her? Did I notice any patterns? What are the ways to grow from this situation?” Thus, you do not focus solely on your broken heart or your ex but use cards as a guiding light on your way to your real desires, needs, and (as a result) personal growth.

Get Closure in This Relationship and Accept the Situation

It’s natural to want closure after your love story is over. However, life is weird, and chances are you may never get closure from the other person. That’s when tarot can help, too! Do a spread that is focused on ‘things that should be released’ or ‘lessons you have learned’ to get more insight and perspective, as a result. At the same time, pay attention to the cards like The World and Death since both usually signal endings and new starts. Thus, you get a symbolic closure of one chapter of your life and the beginning of another. 

You Find Hope and Reassurance in a Sacred Deck

When the wound is still fresh, people tend to think that they will never ever love or be happy again. That’s normal. The good news is that a single tarot reading session can remind you that nothing (even pain) lasts forever. If you pull cards like Ace of Pentacles, Star, and Ten of Cups (yay!), they are the signs of new upcoming opportunities, emotional renewal, and better days that are about to come. Even if your heart’s not ready yet to accept this (too good to be true) information, even seeing these cards can serve as signs of hope and one more reminder that healing will happen no matter what. 

Tarot Signals “You Are Strong!”

There’s no doubt that breaking up with someone you loved so much left you powerless, especially if you didn’t notice signs of the upcoming breakup. Using cards, you can see for yourself that you are strong and autonomous. Cards like Strength, Empress, or Queen of Wands empower you to re-find connection with your inner resilience and self-worth. When cards reflect your own power so obviously, it’s easier for you to believe in yourself again. You have you, and that’s enough!

Simple Yet Effective Tips to Use Tarot for a Broken Heart

If you are ready to perform the getting-over-the-breakup tarot reading session, we recommend that you stick to the following tips:

• Over-reading does no good to you. No matter how strong your urge to ask the same question about your ex over and over again, don’t do it.   
• You are in the center of the process. Every other reading session that you perform to heal after a breakup should be focused on your inner self, your growth, healing, and emotional well-being. No need to get back to your ex, you are priceless!
• Healing spreads are helpful. It is better to try spreads like ‘self-love’ or ‘letting go’ instead of torturing yourself with ‘will we be together again?’ questions.
• Journal about your experience. Journaling rocks, guys! Writing down your card pulls is a great strategy to track your healing as time goes by.

Before you start your session, make sure you do not engage in the process just to find out, “Will my lover and I get back together?” That’s so wrong! The point here is that these kinds of questions will keep you in the past that does not exist anymore. As an alternative, set an open intention, asking things like, “I want to understand what it is that I need to get over this breakup,” “Are there any lessons I can take from this breakup?” or “How can I move forward and…stay sane?” Thus, you will focus on you and your needs instead of being concentrated on the other person (who may not deserve it).

Before You Go…

Keep in mind that no matter how much you want it, tarot cards won’t take the pain away from your heart. However, the sacred séance is a great opportunity to get emotional support that you lack, insight, and a roadmap for healing after a breakup. In other words, we recommend that you consider tarot cards as a friendly and reliable companion who understands what you feel and is always there with a good piece of advice. Thus, if you’ve faced a tough breakup, no need to give up on yourself. Instead, reach for your tarot deck. You can’t even imagine how much clarity and comfort this mystical deck can bring!